Boudoir photography is not only a great Valentine’s or anniversary gift; it is also a perfect treat yourself session or a self-esteem boost. If you are attracted to the idea, but keep hesitating due to anxiety or shyness, I feel you. It is natural to feel tense doing something outside of our comfort zone. Virtually every boudoir client I had went through the same feelings sequence: shy in the beginning - at ease during the process - proud afterwards - and smitten with the results. Sounds worth a try, doesn’t it?
Let me address some of your concerns by answering most frequently asked questions.
Q: My body is not perfect, is boudoir right for me? If I do this, how do I make sure my flaws are hidden?
We always find something we don’t like in ourselves. Even most beautiful models I worked with had their own “ugly duckling” issues. Well, guess what? You are the only one who sees you every single minute of every single day, and are so used to yourself that you forget there is no one in the world exactly like you, and that people around tend to see only the best and most interesting side of you.
There is no such thing as perfect size, shape or age for boudoir photography. This experience is a form of self-love and self-acceptance, the same way a day in with a book/Netflix and wine/ice cream can be. With the only difference that it will make you feel truly good about yourself!
If you still feel strongly about something specific you want to hide, don’t hesitate to share it with me, so I can find the most flattering pose and angles for you. I will also make sure to take care of everything during post-processing. As a woman, I do understand these issues quite well. My main priority is to make you love yourself in these images, and cherish them for years as you would a piece of art. Or have someone love and cherish them for you ;)
Q: What do I do with my face? What if I simply don’t have Scarlett Johansson’s bedroom eyes?
A: Let me tell you a secret not many people know: the hottest thing in the world is not sultry glances, or pouted lips, or even a half-eaten banana. The sexiest things to capture on photos are confidence, joy and a candid smile. So start the session by being completely yourself: smile if you feel like it, be serious if you feel like it, or even give me a nervous look if that is how you feel. In fact, do get it out of your system, give me all your nervousness. :) We will go from there, and soon you will be laughing about something we are discussing, or feeling sexy, and we will get the perfect shots we need without you even realizing it. You can never go wrong with being yourself in a photoshoot!
Another way to ease yourself into the session is to turn your head away from the camera at first. Just sit or lie down, stroke your arm or leg, and slowly stretch in different poses. Channel your inner cat. Focus on yourself, your comfort and your breathing. That way you can start ignoring the camera and act naturally, which makes stunning images.
Q: How do I strike a pose if I’ve never done it before?
A: If you are not a professional model, you don’t have to worry about posing. We can discuss all the details in advance over the phone, and I will give you tips depending on what kind of images you are looking for. During your session I will guide you from start to finish, from where to look to relaxing your fingers. We will work through a variety of poses that you might have chosen, as well as poses that I know will look gorgeous on you. All you need to do is trust me, breathe and enjoy your wondrous sensual self.
Q: Do I need a MUA or a hair stylist?
A: It depends. If you want a glamorous or pin-up look, you might need a professional stylist. I can recommend you one if needed.
If you are not hiring or bringing a MUA, I suggest going with the look you usually wear to events and are most comfortable with. Or choose a natural look (a bit of blush, mascara and nude lipstick). Together with clean slightly tamed bed hair it can make some of the most romantic and hot boudoir photography. Here are some easy tips for a perfect bed hair from Bridal Musings.
Q: What should I wear?
Apart from standard lingerie or nude, it can be a man's shirt, any plain T-shirt, a bathrobe, small pajamas, or anything sheer. You can have high heels on or be barefoot. The most important thing is to make sure your movements are comfortable and you feel good in the outfit or lack of it.
If you prefer something brand new (i.e. you are a shopaholic like me) and want an advice on lingerie shopping, get a negligee – few people have them handy, yet they help create some of the most sensual and feminine looks.
Q: What is the best location for boudoir session?
A: A studio with a bed and daylight is a perfect option.
The photographer’s home is technically convenient, as it’s usually preset for the shoot.
If you are feeling too anxious, your home can also work well. Your own environment can comfort you and help you feel safe. Don’t worry about the furniture or the size of the room, anything will work fine as long as you have daylight. It's useful to have a bed, a mattress or a cozy armchair, some furs, satin, silk or laces to decorate the space, although none of it is crucial. Fabrics or bedding should be solid color, without patterns, so the focus is on you.
It’s good to have a large source of daylight, as it’s very flattering for any skin tone and any shape, but even a small window can work wonders, as it will create intimate shadows and magical mood in the images.
Outdoors boudoir is another good option. You might want to choose early morning time on weekends when parks, beaches and other public locations are empty, and have a friend assist you with changing. Bonus for early morning sessions: beautiful golden hour light.
Q: Isn’t it awkward to pose nude or semi-nude for a stranger?
A: Not if a stranger is an artist. Remember all those classical paintings with aloof-looking nude models? Imagine being a muse and an inspiration like them. Because on the day of your session you are the muse and the most important person to your photographer.
Besides, we won't be strangers for long. Before we begin, you can have some champagne or wine, put on your favorite music, and we’ll have a little chat while I am setting up and adjusting the light/you’re getting your makeup and hair done. Generally, my models relax within the first few shots. In 5 minutes it will feel completely natural, like chatting with a best friend while trying clothes on in a mall.
Q: Will my photos be shared online?
A: Never without your permission. If you prefer to keep them confidential, that is how they will remain. And even if you are OK with them being posted, you will be in control of which ones can be shared.
Got more questions or ready to book your session? Shoot me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org